Tuesday, September 6, 2011
I think we all needed that long weekend, yes?
a very good friend of mine went through a major life change this weekend and we both sought refuge at the cottage. filled our minds with board games and bonfires- its a coping mechanism.
she is going through a similar break up that I did 5 months ago. (wow 5 months! time flies) I think when you date someone when you are both young, you grow up together. You know all the ins and outs and its a warm comfortable blanket.
But, especially for women, I think it is important to make sure we continue to develop ourselves. I say 'especially for women' only because there will inevitably be a point in most of our lives where we need to re-evaluate everything we have made for ourselves career wise and take time off for a family. For women we have to make the most of our youth and get as far ahead as we can before we start the baby making. That is my opinion/goal anyway.
We can mourn the loss of our relationships and be upset they did not work out after all. But, we can also be excited. Excited for no ties to a city, a province, a country..excited to make plans with only our interests in mind..excited to be close to the edge and run blindly into the unknown.
They are great guys, which makes it hard and also easy. They will find love. They will find happiness. They too will stand on their own two feet and jump higher. We can still be friends, share laughs and opinions. After all, they may know us the best out of anyone.
This post is meant to be hopeful. its meant to touch anyone who isn't sure if its really working out, but doesn't think they have the strength to do it alone. you do. you can. and its really really worth it.
I'm so proud of you.